Where To Go On A First Date

First dates in themselves are perilous enough, so how does one go about finding the perfect location or activity to do during it? No one needs the added angst of making a poor decision about what to do on a first date, so it’s well worth doing your research.

As far as first dates go, the stereotypical “dinner and a movie” is quite a decent option. Schedule it so that you see the film first, then go to dinner – this should give you an easy conversation starter if there are any awkward pauses. Since the occasional awkward pause seems to be a prerequisite for a first date, having a topic of conversation at hand can be extremely useful.

However, dinner and a movie isn’t exactly… inventive. If you want to appear a little more spontaneous and thoughtful, you are going to have to put a bit of work in to it. What are her interests? If the answer is something like art, history, museums or theatre – then the ideal location for the first date is obvious. However, it is important to plan with her – there’s no point buying tickets for a theatre show or a museum exhibit that she’s already seen.

Over recent years, dating experts have tried to suggest activity-type first dates, such as snowboarding (at a permanent slope) or playing golf. Yet these first dates are fraught with worry, and while they may seem like a good ice-breaking which offers natural conversation points, they can actually be more hassle than they’re worth. Activities like these require a certain level of easy banter, something which isn’t exactly plentiful on the majority of first dates.

No, the best advice is to keep it simple – dinner and a film, show, gallery or even place of historical interest. Putting a little effort in to selecting the venue will get you far more Brownie points than any snowboarding pass ever could.

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Who Pays For Dinner?

Once upon a time, when the cheque arrived at the end of a meal, the man paid. This was a given, socially accepted and understood by all. But the onset of feminism has clouded the waters somewhat, leaving many men almost afraid to offer to pay for dinner in case they are labelled chauvinistic. On the flip side, women often regard men who don’t offer to pay as skinflint – peril awaits with both options. So what’s a man to do?

When the cheque arrives, the best advice is to wait a second and see how the girl you’re on the date with reacts. Some women may automatically move for their handbag, in which case you know she at least wants to contribute – still offer to pay, but don’t force the issue. If she’s looking around the room and at anything but the cheque, chances are she’s an old-fashioned girl and expects you to pick up the tab.

When setting off on a date, always be ready for having to pay. Never assume – even if the girl seems to be very big on feminism – that she will pay. If she was expecting you to pay and you’ve not brought your wallet, it’ll probably be the death of a promising relationship. If you are paying yourself, do it quietly and discreetly and never imply that she in any way now “owes” you. Ridiculously, some men do do this, even if it is just with a cheeky comment.

In most situations, however, the girl will offer to pay fully or at least contribute. In these circumstances, insisting you want to pay is fine – but only do it once. Anything more than that and you’re bordering on insulting. If after your first insistence she still wants to go Dutch, accept it graciously. It is then critical that you don’t fall into the trap of trying to decide who ate what and paying for your own food – simply halve the bill between you, even if she did order more. If she does want to itemise what was ordered, go with it and be honest.

At all times, no matter who ends up punching their PIN number into the machine, be gracious and appear generous – but never insistent. The best thing is that, over time, this problem will solve itself as you get to know each other. So even if the first cheque arrival is uncomfortable, the next one will be ten times easier.

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Dating Websites: Find Your Niche

When trying to find a companion, one thing that most men look for is similar interests or lifestyles. It was therefore only a matter of time before online dating websites hit on this and created a wave of “niche” sites, where you can search for people with similar interests, lifestyles, careers, incomes – basically, anything.

These sites work like a conventional online dating website, meaning you upload a profile, fill it with as much information as you feel like sharing, and then submit it. Women can then find your profile and contact you if they’re interested, and you too can look around the website and contact women you’re interested in. What niche websites do is eliminate some of the variation by only allowing people with certain characteristics to join.

This is obviously hugely beneficial. I’m sure more than one person has had a girlfriend end a relationship due to what they deemed an unhealthy love of football, television or similar – but using a niche website, you can find someone with the same interests, thus eliminating the possibility of “deal breaking” interests.

With this in mind, there shouldn’t be a problem finding your particular niche. A quick Google search brings up dating websites specifically for dancers, single parents, executive professionals, tall people, atheists and – on the other end of the scale – devout Christians. There are literally hundreds of other niches available.

However, be warned when using niche websites. It is probably only best if that niche is a dominant factor in your life. By joining only niche websites, you are limiting yourself – and plenty of marriages exist happily and peacefully, with husband and wife having very little in common.

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